{"id":373,"date":"2010-01-22T03:01:00","date_gmt":"2010-01-22T03:01:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fertilekitchen.com\/blog\/2010\/01\/22\/fertility-with-a-positive-attitude\/"},"modified":"2026-11-06T19:59:28","modified_gmt":"2026-11-06T19:59:28","slug":"fertility-with-a-positive-attitude","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fertilekitchen.com\/blog\/2010\/01\/22\/fertility-with-a-positive-attitude\/","title":{"rendered":"Fertility with a Positive Attitude!"},"content":{"rendered":"
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I had a wonderful conversation the other week with a marketing manager for a group of fertility clinics about attitude in the face of fertility issues.\u00a0 Bottom line: it\u2019s important to have one.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve told my story here before. After trying for a year, I sought the advice of a popular reproductive endocrinologist who gave me a 2% chance of conceiving.\u00a0 Of course I was devastated! Shocked! Panicked!<\/p>\n

But underneath this burst of sadness and despair, rose another emotion, captured in attitude. It was simply unacceptable to me that I don\u2019t get to have a child. No way. I wanted a child more than anything else in the world. So instead of taking this news as good reason to give up and grieve \u2013 which I could have done\u2014I accepted it as just another obstacle on my road to parenthood. Another issue to overcome.<\/p>\n

I could not give up until I had tried everything in my power to do so. I wanted no regrets. I wanted to be able to say, at the very least, that I did all I could.<\/p>\n

So I decided to squeeze as much of that 2% out of me as I could. I would become a parent, damn it! Whatever it took that I could control\u2026<\/p>\n

An article written for a British website <\/a>says: \u201cstudies have found that positive thinking decreases levels of stress and the risk of depression, which in turn led to increased odds of getting pregnant.\u201d<\/p>\n

This article talks about using visualizations and affirmations to help keep you thinking positive \u2013 and I believe strongly in both.\u00a0 \u201cBy visualizing success in getting pregnant, you will actually bring yourself closer to your \u2026 goal. Visualize yourself experiencing pregnancy symptoms or receiving a positive pregnancy test result,\u201d this article suggests.<\/p>\n

One of the affirmations that I said daily for months (with attitude!) is \u201cI am loving being pregnant with a healthy, viable pregnancy.\u201d I would close my eyes and imagine at least two scenarios with my future babies (I just imagined I\u2019d have boy-girl twins). I imagined breast feeding the babies and I\u2019d imagined having a pillow fight with them (as two-year-olds) with my husband in a tent while camping. These images were vivid for me, alive.<\/p>\n

I also agree with the article in not dwelling on the negative. They use this example: \u201cIf you get your period this month, don\u2019t look at it as a sign of a getting pregnant failure, but rather as a positive sign that your reproduction is healthy and on-track.\u201d<\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t agree more, and this is what I did every time. When faced with a new challenge, such as: \u201cHmmm\u2026 it looks like you have polyps in your uterus.\u201d I let myself feel the blow, the pain, and then backed up and said, OK, another challenge, another obstacle, let\u2019s see how I can get around that, or through that to get to my goal. (In the case of the polyps, it was simple: I had surgery to remove them. Good choice, too! Since there were three of them and two quite large.)<\/p>\n

In the end, after the \u201cdevastating\u201d news, I put myself on a fertility friendly diet, among other healing regimens, such as yoga, meditation, and visualizations, and four months later I conceived our son. We have had that gentle pillow fight in the tent while camping, which I visualized, and I know every moment of positive thought had helped to keep him alive, so to speak.<\/p>\n

Having a positive attitude, by the way, doesn\u2019t mean you don\u2019t allow yourself to feel the sadness, stress or depression. But it allows you to find an open window to escape to a healthier, happier place. To have and maintain hope, which we all need in trying times.<\/p>\n

Photo: Me, very pregnant (at last!).<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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