{"id":303,"date":"2010-03-05T06:40:00","date_gmt":"2010-03-05T06:40:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fertilekitchen.com\/blog\/2010\/03\/05\/supporting-your-spouse-on-the-fertility-journey\/"},"modified":"2026-11-06T03:59:24","modified_gmt":"2026-11-06T03:59:24","slug":"supporting-your-spouse-on-the-fertility-journey","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fertilekitchen.com\/blog\/2010\/03\/05\/supporting-your-spouse-on-the-fertility-journey\/","title":{"rendered":"Supporting Your Spouse on the Fertility Journey"},"content":{"rendered":"
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I recently came across a blog post in which a woman who is enduring fertility issues was infuriated at her husband because he wanted to buy an expensive gadget for his car, not getting that they needed to save for infertility treatment. \u201cHe just doesn\u2019t get it!\u201d she repeated throughout.<\/p>\n

I hear her pain and frustration, and I understand her husband\u2019s woes too. Fertility issues have the potential to squash the life right out of a relationship. Dealing with infertility can be so challenging on many levels\u2014emotional, financial, physical\u2014and as Dr. Alice Domar points out in her book, Conquering Infertility<\/a>, what makes matters worse is that women and men handle it differently. She writes, \u201c\u2026even though our sensibilities and roles are far different than those of our ancestors, women are still biologically and neurochemically hardwired to want babies in ways that men simply are not.\u201d That says a lot right there! And can explain why we can get so obsessed on the baby trail, so emotional, while our male partners don\u2019t fully understanding the depth of our obsession or emotion. <\/p>\n

Although men may seem not to take the whole thing as seriously as their wives do, Domar\u2019s research shows they do feel the pain and they do care; they just react differently than women. Which is why it\u2019s so important to TALK and stay open during this process! Support groups and counseling can also help!<\/p>\n

It\u2019s also good to keep in mind that men can feel totally frustrated and completely helpless in their ability to make us feel better. They want so much to help, to do something, but feel there’s not much they can do.<\/p>\n

With that in mind, I wanted to share something personal my husband wrote: his tips for supporting your wife on a fertility diet, and on the journey in general. Things men can actually do <\/i>to make a difference. So, from  Pierre\u2019s male perspective:<\/p>\n